Get a good counsellor

Depending on the kids' personalities and responses to the family divorce, you may need to seek external help and in this case, the expertise of an experienced counsellor. I've called and checked out numerous counselling services, starting from Family Service Centres (FSCs), hotlines to professional counsellors based in hospitals. Unfortunately, the harvest is plenty but the workers are few. Good counsellors are hard to come by and I need to ascertain a good one before bringing my step-children to see them as I don't want them to be disappointed.

Trust me, it's not just the children but the parents/ step-parents who get disheartened by counsellors too. I cannot recall how many times I've been telling/retelling my family's history just to find someone suitable to help. A good counsellor is not only able to assess and help the child, but also offer feedback and coping strategies for the parent/ step-parent.

Recently, I met up with a psychologist and spoke to him about my step-daughter who's a growing teenager at 13 years old. He's good in diagnosing the situation and understanding her mental psyche. I'm bringing my girl to see him next week...so let's keep our fingers crossed that both of them can connect! Watch this space!